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Healing Burnout
a 6-week guided journey to a healthier life with space to breathe
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Friend, the answer is not to work harder.
The real issue is complex, has lots of layers and angles, which is why we haven’t been able to find a one minute Reels on “how to heal burnout” that truly heals.
I’ve intentionally crafted this 6-week journey, with a signature 3-layer method you can refer back to for years, to meet you where you are in an overly full life, guide you through to more room to breathe, with science and research to back me up, empathy and personal experiences to share, all in a way that doesn’t pretend our solutions are easy yet confidently champions:
life can be far easier than it feels today.
What are you uniquely struggling with?
- My time & energy don’t match my to-do list, so I’m always behind.
- Unsure how to balance a job, building a business on the side, and time for my husband, kids, friends, and to just rest!
- I’m disappointed about where I am and feel defeated that I'm basically in the same situation I’ve been in for years.
- I’m not doing the things I say are important—I do all the goal setting but then there’s no time to actually do it.
- I’m not doing anything well, feel like I’m half-assing everything, and always a little disappointed in myself because I know I’m not living up to my full potential.
- My clients, church, or children are happy, but I’m miserably burned out.
- I wonder, “Is this really the meaning of life? To be scheduled within an inch of my life everyday??"
- It feels like maybe I’m doing this whole thing (gesticulates wildly) wrong.
Love, I’ve been there, and I know the way through.
I first started teaching how to “overcome overwhelm” in 2013. You can hear more of my story, including my rock bottom moment due to burnout and a big aha in Italy, in the video above.
Over the last decade, I’ve taught tens of thousands of students on this topic through speaking, courses, and communities. As an entrepreneur, with business as my greatest cause of burnout, I focused on helping business owners. However, I realized the truest teaching had nothing to do with what you do for work and applies to every unique life situation in those bullets above, whether it’s juggling aging parents or aggressive volunteering pressure from the PTA. I started to craft a new path, a 3-part method, that welcomes every single one of us.
The Healing Burnout course is a decade of lived experience, and the first teaching for all of us.
Imagine a life with room to breathe, feeling rested, proud of yourself and peaceful in the belief that you’ve done enough. It’s possible.
Here’s what I’ve made more true for myself…
- I note the signs of burnout sooner + have tools to start healing when it arises.
- The hardest seasons are far easier as I’m coming to them with a healthier baseline.
- I am more calm + peaceful in my marriage, family, friendships, work relationships.
- I have much less self-shame, self-blame, am more proud of + gentle with myself.
- I’m well rested. Hallelujah. (You are more tired than you even realize, friend.)
- I have a list of physical ailments I’m no longer suffering with; a body + brain that feel + function better.
- I find creative solutions faster, so I feel less trapped + get unstuck more quickly.
- I more often get a rush of giddiness from being in the flow, doing work I know is really high level, feeling like I’m succeeding + so grateful for my work.
- I like my life so much more! I have more fun, play, rest, + leisure. Life is no longer all about work, resting for/from work, or "waiting until this season is over."
Let me share my decade of wisdom to help you get to healing faster.
a 6-week guided journey to a healthier life with space to breathe
Healing Burnout is the wisdom, accountability, and support you need to stop working harder and start living well.
"Omg where do I start?! The elegant excellence lifestyle that Hilary talks about and leads by example is so inspirational. Since following Hilary my life has shifted so much. I now live in the moment, have a curated beautiful home, an online job I love, am working on my Masters to become a psychologist. This would not be possible without Hilary’s teaching and products this past year."
- Alisa
The How & Why of my Signature 3-Layer Method
The textbook definition of burnout includes three key components: exhaustion, cynicism, and inefficiency. I’ve reimagined those as the emotional, mental, and physical parts of ourselves: how we feel, what we think/believe, and from those healthier places, what we do. And in each one, I offer the antidote to those textbook breakdowns: we need healing, hope, and then help.
To start feeling change more quickly we’ll walk through each layer over three weeks, then revisit them to go deeper. You’ll end with a cheatsheet roadmap you can return to for years to come, to make this process muscle memory and to approach each new season of your life with increasing wisdom, peace, and confidence.
Throughout our journey you’ll learn:
WEEKS 1 + 4:
Emotional
EXHAUSTION → HEALING
We start to feel better now. We explore science-based actions we can take to help our bodies feel and function better. Bonus, they are all delightful and feel good! We’ll increase our self-compassion as we increase our self-awareness of how we’re really feeling and functioning today. Let’s begin by replenishing, so we can breathe a bit before we move into more complex problem solving.
- Noticing and shifting your core daily motivator (and how to honor why it exists)
- 16 actions we can choose daily or weekly to physiologically change our bodies towards rest and healing
- 7 medically researched energies we want to turn the volume up or down on throughout our weeks and seasons to feel holistically balanced and rested
- Understanding the chemical effects of stress versus joy, and which actions to prioritize for a healthier body and brain
WEEKS 2 + 5:
Mental
CYNICISM → HOPE
Next we examine our cultural expectations, honoring truths we sometimes cannot change. We grapple with our personal beliefs and choices, where we are most empowered for change. This all rests on a core belief that the purpose of life cannot be to micromanage it, and live exhausted until it’s all over. What does it mean to live a good life?
- Go deep to explore our cultural realities and unpack the conflicting messages we receive so we can choose the ones best for us
- Define our personal metrics of success and meaning to bring us clarity and confidence in future decision making
- Look at the math and our root beliefs keeping us stuck on this seemingly endless treadmill
- Honor our unique lives whether as women, mothers, people of color, those with disabilities, etc. to tell ourselves the truth then seek solutions
WEEKS 3 + 6:
Physical
INEFFICIENCY → HELP
Finally, we take major actions, big and small, to simplify and actively create a life we love more. Situational factors are the largest cause of burnout, so we’ll look to make meaningful changes, from a more healed and hopeful place from our earlier steps.
- Create rhythms throughout our days so we can prioritize what matters most, without micromanaging, and find more room to breathe.
- Break down exactly how to navigate a variety of specific scenarios that trip us up with, “But how will that work for my issue, which is…”
- Identify potential changes, even if we can’t implement them just yet, and start asking more questions to be open to creative solutions.
All of this for the first time ever in a live virtual course over six weeks with our inaugural cohort!
You have spacious support designed to help you when you need it with these bonuses:
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Slow Sessions
Each week you’ll also receive meditative audio classes designed to be used while journaling, walking, driving, or stretching. These messages reinforce the teaching throughout the week, with space for you to be with your thoughts without needing perfect quiet to do so. Each comes in a 10 or 20 minute version to best support your needs that day, and can become favorites you return to every week for years to come, to spend more time with the most important person in your life and the number one person who can heal you: you.
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No Rush
Access to your course does not expire, and you have ample time in our community. The teachings are uniquely designed to watch or listen, taking notes or on the go, in 20 minutes or less. So there is no way you can tell yourself you don’t have 20 minutes to fold in healing–plus they aren’t going anywhere, nor are we. Start healing today. Go deeper into healing over the coming months. You are not in a rush, but you are going to stop procrastinating your peace and start today.
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INTRODUCING:
The Elegant Excellence Community
SIX MONTHS ACCESS
You have asked for this community for years! A place to gather, connect, meet like-minded women, and get more support from Hilary even when you’re detoxing social media. Before opening to the public in 2023, our founding members are students of Healing Burnout, helping us shape what this community will be and better hearing how to support your growth and connections.
All the research shows that change happens most effectively in a community of people who are on the same journey. Their ahas will inspire your own, their shifts give you a great idea for yours. They’ll have the perfect advice you need, and in return, you’ll have wonderful advice for them in another area. And since most of my close friends are women I met on the internet, I want to create a space where you can cultivate new adult friendships with healthy women that inspire and support you.
Coming in 2023, there will be a monthly theme with new teaching from Hilary each month and ongoing support from our team and your new friends. Plus, founding members will lock in our lowest rate should they choose to continue in the community.
($175 for SIX months if purchased separately)
registration closes
January 27th
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This is your healing season
when you join today, you'll get:
- 6 week experience, 2 classes each week to watch/listen to anywhere, anytime
- A 3-layer method you can return to for years to come
- Weekly Slow Sessions to support you in hearing from and spending time with yourself
- Access that doesn't expire, so you’re ready to heal but not in a rush
- The NEW Elegant Excellence Community: 6 months of connection with Hilary
- Ongoing teaching and support in a space where brilliant women live better together
• Healing Burnout Course: $500
• Elegant Excellence Community: $175
Total Experience: $675
Yours today with our incredible founding members discount!
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All with a worry free 30-day money-back guarantee
What if you get inside and the Healing Burnout course isn’t right for you? Please don’t buy if you just want to “check it out”. This program was created with love and integrity, for people ready and willing to take action. However, if you dive in and feel it’s not right for you, you can cancel within 30 days. I believe in this teaching and want to make sure you’re thrilled with it!
More love from our past students
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“THANK YOU!! I’ve always struggled with being a workaholic and chronically feeling behind. It is so refreshing to hear the perspective of shutting out the noise of the hustlers and seeking out the resters.”
– Kadie
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“Hilary’s teachings always help me unlock my mindset and see things from a different perspective. I have worked with a few coaches but genuinely find Hilary’s teachings more valuable than the private coaches I have seen.”
– Laura
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“I’ve been following Hilary for years and taken several of her courses. I LOVE how positive, energetic, and genuine she is. So caring, always nice. She makes me feel like I’m in a room with like-minded individuals.”
– Abby
registration closes
January 27th
Days
Hours
Minutes
Seconds
This is your healing season
when you join today, you'll get:
- 6 week experience, 2 classes each week to watch/listen to anywhere, anytime
- A 3-layer method you can return to for years to come
- Weekly Slow Sessions to support you in hearing from and spending time with yourself
- Access that doesn't expire, so you’re ready to heal but not in a rush
- The NEW Elegant Excellence Community: 6 months of connection with Hilary
- Ongoing teaching and support in a space where brilliant women live better together
• Healing Burnout Course: $500
• Elegant Excellence Community: $175
Total Experience: $675
Yours today with our incredible founding members discount!
choose your payment option
ALL PRICING IN USD
Here’s what this course is not about:
- Self-care and bubble baths. Sure those are lovely, but you already know those, and if they were enough, it would have worked already.
- Productivity, time batching, and how to make more happen. You are already working so hard; the problem is not a few efficiency hacks you’re missing.
- Moving to a commune where we live off the land without internet. Escape fantasies serve a purpose, but we want them to inspire what’s possible in our true reality today.
- Having kids or not, being an entrepreneur or not, being in your 20's or 70's. While my story is different than yours, we make space for all of them with foundational truths and personal applications.
Why I know this works:
- I’ve consumed the science, research, and data to back it up.
- I’m a questioner. We don’t shy away from the really hard parts, as doing so implies we can personally or easily fix things that are systemic and complex.
- If you heard my story in the video above, you know my life has depended on this, I’ve taken this work seriously.
- You also heard my receipts: every six months friends would comment on the change. Six years later, they were still commenting on it. They saw and felt the difference and wanted to know how they could get it too. This is that work, and that answer.
This is perfect for you if:
- You know you need to be doing less, you just genuinely can't figure out what you could say no to without serious consequences.
- You really want to rest, but the guilt is so strong—the mom guilt, wife guilt, church guilt, boss guilt.
- You know you’re so hard on yourself, so unkind; you really do want to be more compassionate with yourself and gentle on your body and brain.
- You’re too sharp for fluffy answers, you want to ask the complex questions to get to the truth. You want the facts and the feelings honored, the proven research and the lived experiences, to truly feel peaceful that you’re doing the best one can.
The answer is not to work harder.
If hard work were enough, we would be happier already!
We are suffering. We need compassion, healing, and better tools to navigate a society that’s leaving both working women and mothers burned out at higher rates than ever before.
Stop suffering for one more year to an imaginary finish line you never reach. It’s time to start living, for your sake and everyone you love around you.
My life is so much better that I get a pit in my stomach at the idea of ever having to go back to the way I used to live.
I want to run around shouting to anyone who’s in pain that there is freedom; there is so much more peace available to you. It isn’t easy, but it can be so much easier. Please let me show you how I’ve shifted off a heavy inclined treadmill into a garden with more places to sit and just be.
You don’t have to keep living like this. You’re one gentle choice away from a life with more room to breathe.
Frequently Asked Questions
No matter what your circumstances—children, aging parents, entrepreneur, hourly or salary employee, any age—this is for you. We make space with foundational wisdom that applies to any story and therefore all the stories that may be ours over the years to come. We ask complex questions that welcome in the reality of life and focus on practical solutions, while also dreaming outside the cultural boundaries modeled for us. You are welcome here, and there is rest for you in this place.
Our first module begins on Saturday, November 12th with a new module unlocked each Saturday for six weeks. This pacing allows you time to absorb and sit with each teaching, so you start to feel the shifts before adding on new insights or actions, without overwhelm.
Yes! The Elegant Excellence Community is officially launching with this course as our first ever space to connect with Hilary and our community not just about business or style, but our lives in all their elements. You’ll be surrounded by hundreds of women on the journey with you, with additional teachings released each month after the course to keep going deeper. This is a place to tell the truth, ask the hard questions, get advice, give advice, and genuinely make adult friendships with other healthy women doing the work to live well.
Each teaching is 20 min or less. You’ll receive 3 teachings each week inside the course. All can be consumed on the go, listening only, whether you’re driving, walking, folding laundry, or putting on your makeup. Whenever you do have more time, sitting to take notes and being fully present will help you absorb the most, but with access not expiring you have plenty of time to revisit each again and again.
Yes. We have a 30-day worry-free guarantee.
registration closes
January 27th
Days
Hours
Minutes
Seconds
This is your healing season
when you join today, you'll get:
- 6 week experience, 2 classes each week to watch/listen to anywhere, anytime
- A 3-layer method you can return to for years to come
- Weekly Slow Sessions to support you in hearing from and spending time with yourself
- Access that doesn't expire, so you’re ready to heal but not in a rush
- The NEW Elegant Excellence Community: 6 months of connection with Hilary
- Ongoing teaching and support in a space where brilliant women live better together
• Healing Burnout Course: $500
• Elegant Excellence Community: $175
Total Experience: $675
Yours today with our incredible founding members discount!
choose your payment option
ALL PRICING IN USD
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