Without buying more, weighing less, or waiting for culture to change. You can feel better tomorrow (truly, deeply), just as you are today.
Without buying more, weighing less, or waiting for culture to change. You can feel better tomorrow (truly, deeply), just as you are today.
Without buying more, weighing less, or waiting for culture to change. You can feel better tomorrow (truly, deeply), just as you are today.
“This teaching is TOTALLY challenging me and I’m loving it, which is surprising me. It challenges my notions of fashion and feminism. I’ve only been in the class a couple of weeks but I really feel transformed! I’ll already recommend this course to many of my friends, especially those who work and also have children and just don’t have time to focus on themselves. I think this teaching could really shake things up! Thank you again for a fabulous experience already.”
Since we were 3-years-old (according to research) we’ve been indoctrinated with a story about beauty and bodies in which absolutely no one is ever enough. Thus we are always fixing, always spending, always striving for a peace we never achieve.
With over a decade of experience exploring this very question, and a complete year crafting this groundbreaking immersive teaching,
Not including makeup/beauty/anti-aging, or weight loss.
*Put that into the stock market and we’re talking about a staggering wealth gap between men and women
trying to feel more confident on the outside, yet no one ever taught us how.
In just four decades we’ve gone from 12 to 68 new items a year.
Not including makeup/beauty/anti-aging, or weight loss.
*Put that into the stock market and we’re talking about a staggering wealth gap between men and women
trying to feel more confident on the outside, yet no one ever taught us how.
In just four decades we’ve gone from 12 to 68 new items a year.
Because it’s the answer that makes people money.
The expectation of what beautiful enough is keeps rising, so every year, every month, we buy more to keep up.A peaceful woman is satisfied with enough. She rests. She shows others they can rest. She makes space for others without having to change themselves. She is less obsessed with controlling herself, and therefore others, meaning she is less distracted by the small stuff. She has more time to focus on the things that matter: her soul, her inner circle, helping others, enjoying being alive.
She’s the kind of woman who’s kind. She’s become the woman she’s always found so becoming to be in the presence of.
Heck culture shows it’s not. Celebrities who have full-time and millions of dollars to spend on fitness trainers, chefs, nutritionists–are still wearing shapewear, all that body work isn’t enough; on estheticians, plastic surgery–still have glam squads and wear full beat makeup, all that face work isn’t enough; and are still called out for photoshopping themselves because they still haven’t reached beautiful enough. And it is their full time job! They have full-time childcare!
Y’all. We never reach a high enough step on the staircase of beauty that we can rest, and feel beautiful as we are in our own skin.
The more colors, shapes, and sizes only makes it more breathtaking. Gardens invite you to rest, to sit down, to look straight out at the view of what is, not up ahead at where you might be able to get with a little more work. In a garden we are shoulder to shoulder, there is no ranking, no competition. Everyone is welcome to bloom to the fullest, and the healthier our soil is the more everyone around us thrives as well.
It can be true that you do not have enough physical safety, emotional support, and as a collective we should reach back and help you up to a safe enough step. Yet far more often we are climbing staircases for more, when we already have enough and could choose to rest and enjoy being alive, and beauty is the most clear place to start. When we heal our striving in beauty, we begin to heal ourselves overall in the roots of our burnout.
Most efforts to heal our body image, increase our outer confidence, reign in our spending, or help us pass better habits to our children address just one element of our deep longing–style tips, mindful eating, or clutter clearing.
In this unique experience we’ll sit at the intersection of both the outside and in, personal and collective, things we can change and those we can’t, what money can buy and what it never can.
Rather than focusing on one topic at a time, we’ll wander back and forth through them all, layering and going deeper.
You’ll see how one informs the other, how healing here prepares you for healing there next.
The outside matters. Far less than we think, but it’s part of it. We love beauty, creativity, art! Color, pattern, texture, shape. But unlike any other teaching, my approach is not about individual items you need, and it’s not about fear: can’t, don’t, shouldn’t. I teach foundations that explain why we like what we like, and empower us to wear far more than we believe we can. I’ll teach you how to trust your eye, so you have more confidence with less stress and less things. (Sneak peek, we’ll start with my famous 2-Part Fashion Cocktail. She explains everything you’re struggling to put your finger on in a look.)
The outside matters. Far less than we think, but it’s part of it. We love beauty, creativity, art! Color, pattern, texture, shape. But unlike any other teaching, my approach is not about individual items you need, and it’s not about fear: can’t, don’t, shouldn’t. I teach foundations that explain why we like what we like, and empower us to wear far more than we believe we can. I’ll teach you how to trust your eye, so you have more confidence with less stress and less things. (Sneak peek, we’ll start with my famous 2-Part Fashion Cocktail. She explains everything you’re struggling to put your finger on in a look.)
Beyond the sublime satisfaction of clearing clutter, my proprietary Ribbon & Record Method helps you identify your unique personal style and lifestyle. You’ll learn to further trust your gut, yourself, without needing the cost of a personal stylist, so you can shop in a way that saves you so much money and time for the rest of your life.
Beyond the sublime satisfaction of clearing clutter, my proprietary Ribbon & Record Method helps you identify your unique personal style and lifestyle. You’ll learn to further trust your gut, yourself, without needing the cost of a personal stylist, so you can shop in a way that saves you so much money and time for the rest of your life.
No matter what we do on the outside, it will never be enough without health on the inside. I’ll share specific tools that led to immense healing in my own burnout and anxiety that will guide you to freedom. Each one is very specific to overcoming our insecurities and judgment in this area of bodies and beauty.
No matter what we do on the outside, it will never be enough without health on the inside. I’ll share specific tools that led to immense healing in my own burnout and anxiety that will guide you to freedom. Each one is very specific to overcoming our insecurities and judgment in this area of bodies and beauty.
We’ll make it personal, identifying the beliefs from your childhood and community for you to personally heal. Then vision casting who you desire to be and are becoming. “Dress for the job you want not the job you have” is true but it means you have to know what you want, and I’ll guide you to that.
We’ll make it personal, identifying the beliefs from your childhood and community for you to personally heal. Then vision casting who you desire to be and are becoming. “Dress for the job you want not the job you have” is true but it means you have to know what you want, and I’ll guide you to that.
We’ll also make it collective. When you realize this is not a you problem, this an us problem – all of us – you realize it’s not a personal failing. It’s something we all need, so you getting free, frees us all. I’ll help you understand how racism, the environment, our fertility, and more all tie together so that as we feel more beautiful, we do so in a way that ensures all women feel more beautiful.
We’ll also make it collective. When you realize this is not a you problem, this an us problem – all of us – you realize it’s not a personal failing. It’s something we all need, so you getting free, frees us all. I’ll help you understand how racism, the environment, our fertility, and more all tie together so that as we feel more beautiful, we do so in a way that ensures all women feel more beautiful.
This is a big one. I want to walk you through, gently and compassionately, yet insistently from many different angles as this is a lifetime of indoctrination we’re rewiring. We’ll explore the history and data on a healthier approach to the ridiculous made-up stories that harm every body at any size. (This changes everything. Just, everything, friend.)
This is a big one. I want to walk you through, gently and compassionately, yet insistently from many different angles as this is a lifetime of indoctrination we’re rewiring. We’ll explore the history and data on a healthier approach to the ridiculous made-up stories that harm every body at any size. (This changes everything. Just, everything, friend.)
The best news is as we rethink our own stories, we pass on better beliefs to our daughters, nieces, grand and god-daughters, or those of our best friends, so the next generation of women can be healthier, happier, and more hopeful from the start. When you learn what you can do to protect other women, you suddenly feel such purpose and meaning in your own healing, because you want to be part of the true solution and the data proves this is it. What we’re learning for ourselves in this teaching, is exactly what our daughters need to learn to stay free.
The best news is as we rethink our own stories, we pass on better beliefs to our daughters, nieces, grand and god-daughters, or those of our best friends, so the next generation of women can be healthier, happier, and more hopeful from the start. When you learn what you can do to protect other women, you suddenly feel such purpose and meaning in your own healing, because you want to be part of the true solution and the data proves this is it. What we’re learning for ourselves in this teaching, is exactly what our daughters need to learn to stay free.
You’ll hear in the teaching how my first clients in 2011, lead to the greatest healing breakthrough about my body. I’ve healed in this community, and now you’re invited to join us inside The Garden Party.
You’ll hear in the teaching how my first clients in 2011, lead to the greatest healing breakthrough about my body. I’ve healed in this community, and now you’re invited to join us inside The Garden Party.
Remember how the average American woman is throwing away $1,600 a year on clothes she doesn’t wear? And if you think you’re doing better than that, I hate to tell you data shows we all think we’re above average! Yep, every woman reading this thinks she spends more wisely than the rest of us. (insert melting emoji face) The data also shows we all think we wear twice as much as we actually do, so we’re probably twice as strugglebuss as we think.
On top of that we spend TWICE as much throughout our lifetime on makeup, beauty, and our faces. So odds are we’re losing quite a few hundreds a year on that minimum? Oh and then there’s our weight loss efforts? Yeah, we are easily losing $2k a year.
4 LIVE CALLS throughout our time together, with recordings. This allows our members a place to ask Hilary more questions about the teaching as you live it out, go deeper on new topics that arise, and have hot seats with personal coaching whether feedback on outfits or broader life challenges.
Come inside my closet with me as this year progresses while I break down how I use the style principles, organization, and mindset inside this teaching in my own style, lifestyle, and wardrobe to make decisions of what to keep or part with, why, and how to style them. Watch the teaching played out in my own life, and how my style evolves.
It takes 21 days to make a new habit, and 90 days to make it a part of your lifestyle so it sticks. We have 365 days inside this experience to 4x our commitment to making this a permanent lifestyle change, and kick it off with 21 days of support to get you started. Short daily text messages with affirmations, quotes, and reminders will gently yet consistently help you remember this new intention you’re undertaking to be kinder to yourself and others, and to think of beauty in a new way.
The average woman will spend $200k over her lifetime on her face. Beyond the financial we’ll discuss the health, fertility, environmental, and equality elements present in this core component of our beauty. This video teaching frees and empowers us to make wiser choices, while considering our values and priorities. (I’ll also share the most up to date products I’m using on my own face and body after researching what’s safe, sustainable, and a wise investment.)
It’s been said this is the least transparent of all our areas of beauty. The shame stories we carry around what good hair is, who has it, and how we’re getting it is a perspective shifting conversation. We’ll heal from the top down in this powerful bonus video teaching. (Spoiler alert: I’ll recommend you never again buy a hair product because someone on Instagram said so, and why.)
Throughout our year together you’ll become more clear what comments you no longer welcome about bodies and beauty. What conversations are you uncomfortable with, whether about you, your children, or even the speaker about themselves or others. While we can’t control others’ behavior, we can advocate for health and safety, kindly and clearly. This simple map guides you to gracefully yet confidently shift how you encourage others to speak, and empowers you to cultivate a more supportive atmosphere around you for yourself and others.
You’re invited inside our private space with Hilary and members of all our products in one inclusive community. The Garden Party itself has a new teaching added each month on topics such as confidence, cultivating friendships, money mindset, increasing happiness. There’s an invite-only space for WMWFB members to share outfit photos from style challenges for helpful feedback, as well as both struggles and wins for encouragement, advice, and aha’s with Hilary and one another. This is the most encouraging, vulnerable crew who is committed to consistently taking small actions that feel good and I hope you’ll join us there. Just $15/month for WMWFB members.
Please note: Special pricing and bonuses are only available during this limited-time enrollment period.
When you join, you’ll also have the opportunity to become a member of The Garden Party at a special alumni rate of just $15/month!
What if you get inside and What Makes Women Feel Beautiful isn’t right for you? Please don’t buy if you just want to “check it out”. This program was created with love and integrity, for people ready and willing to take action. However, if you dive in and feel it’s not right for you, you can cancel within 14 days. I believe in this teaching and want to make sure you’re thrilled with it!
I had recently given birth to my 3rd baby and my sense of beauty and confidence in myself was all out of sorts. But now I’ve found that my beauty and confidence really shine when I step away from the confines of the box and follow my instincts on what actually feels good to me.
I really appreciated Hilary’s message about learning to embrace yourself where you are right now and NOT pushing the idea that you had to buy these clothes or follow this diet or do this fitness routine in order to feel beautiful. I’m growing more and more confident in my style and beauty decisions because I’m focusing more on what feels good to me rather than what other people might think.”
“I love the closet organization tips, style challenges, and listening to Hilary describe how and why certain looks worked or what would work better. I’m finding new ways to wear old clothes and I’ve become more satisfied with what I already own which has
I don’t think too much about what other people will think and more about what makes me happy. This teaching is for anyone who wants to break free of outdated ways of thinking which we are all in!”
“I’m more comfortable and confident. I get more compliments and am starting to stand out in a positive way.
She reviewed my teaching and said it was one of the best she’d read and I deeply understand adult learning retention. That was over a decade ago.
They had some great ideas! But did I really change myself a year later? Could I tell you much about what they said a year later? Almost never.
You won’t feel behind, overwhelmed, or lost; you won’t feel merely inspired, rather the changes in your life will be evident to yourself and others.
The majority of teachings around beauty come from experts on one area: a fitness coach on weight loss, a stylist on what to wear, an activist on how to make space for everyone.
I’m here to help you shake off the dust that is dimming the best version of yourself that already exists within you, as you are today. You are FANTASTIC! We need your unique perspective, diversity, for you to be authentically you so the rest of us are inspired to do the same.
sometimes you gotta add a shoulder shimmy in there to remind you we’re healing these things and it’s gonna be okay!#HighKick
If we haven’t met yet, hi, I’m Hilary Rushford Collyer. (waves from Brooklyn) I’ve been researching “what makes women feel beautiful” since I started out as a personal stylist with private clients in 2011.
Those sessions included much more crying than I expected. I quickly realized our closets are not composed of things, but of stories–who we are, were, want to be–represented in a cheap rayon blouse (still not making enough money) or a too tight dress (still haven’t lost the weight.)
I become compelled to go deeper, get to the root of healing, and uncover how we can truly feel free, confident, and peaceful in our bodies and our beauty.
As a former music theater performer in my last career (a Broadway tour, Radio City Rockettes, and all that jazz) I lived in fear of being fired or not rehired because of my weight. I was miserably depressed for many years, loathing my body, and letting it get in the way of thriving in my dreams.
Over a decade later I’m blown away how much researching this question has healed my own body image. I’m not only more confident and peaceful, I’m far kinder to myself, thus to others, and I spend so much less time, money, and energy yet feel more joy.
You aren’t struggling with a personal problem.
We’re all limping under the weight of a cultural story. (Even the most beautiful woman you know. Her too.) A made-up story. An arbitrary story (often racist, classist, patriarchal.) One we can rewrite, together.
No one is coming to do it for us, because they all make money and retain power by us believing it.
We are the only ones who can set ourselves and other women free.
Are you ready to feel better, and in the process make all women around you feel better too?
You m’dear, are welcome here.
Friday, September 22nd at 11:59pm ET
Please note: Special pricing and bonuses are only available during this limited-time enrollment period.
When you join, you’ll also have the opportunity to become a member of The Garden Party at a special alumni rate of just $15/month!
The first suite of teachings and the community is ready for you today! As soon as you join you’ll get your login to come meet the women inside, begin watching the teaching videos/listening to the audio, and download your companion content pages! There’s no reason to wait. You tomorrow, will already be grateful to your present self for starting to feel better now.
We have three tracks at which you can move through the content: 6 weeks, 3 months, or 12 months. This allows you to feel supported throughout the journey at your own pace, and never behind. Meanwhile all tracks have a full year of membership in the community.
Not at all! You have the choice to go through the experience in 6 weeks, 3 months, or 12 months. This allows you to feel supported throughout the journey at your own pace, and never behind. Meanwhile all tracks have a full year of membership in the community. Even our Happy Hour with Hilary bonus calls are spaced out over many months, so there really is no worry about missing out! Everyone’s year will ebb and flow with busy seasons, and in as little as 20 minutes a week I’m here to help you truly change your life in this area. (Bonus: my approach saves you time, money, energy, and lowers your burnout so it helps you feel a little less spread thin all along the way!)
I’m so glad you asked because I am nerdily proud of this detail! If you’re going on vacation for a week, or see you’re heading into a slammed 3 weeks at work: just hit pause at the bottom of any of your emails. Instead of sending you the next teaching to keep you going, I’ll send you a reminder email once a week for 3 weeks to see if you are ready to get going again. Then I’ll switch it to once a month (I don’t mean to nag.) Whenever you decide to unpause, you’ll get an email welcoming you back and reminding you of the content outline, and how to figure out where you left off. This way you don’t pile up and file emails you have to “catch up” on, and instead have steady email support throughout your 6 week, 3 month, or 12 month track. You can also change tracks. If you start with 6 weeks then get a promotion (congrats!) and realize you’re going to be busy, either pause for a few weeks, or toggle down to 3 months so you’re moving through the content a little more slowly.
We have a money back guarantee! If in the first 14 days after the official start date of June 30th
you realize it’s just not right for you, no worries. However, in over a decade I have less than a 1% refund rate, and I’ve never made an offer that was this spacious so I know it will be even less. Take a look at the Q about time commitment to remember this won’t be overwhelming, the stats about time and money you’re leaking now to remember why this will be worth it, plus the testimonials from students of my original program which was only 30% of what you’re getting now to know this is going to be life changing and so good!
Yes! The Garden Party membership community that comes with this course is a space to connect with myself and our community, not just about this topic but our lives in all their elements. You’ll be surrounded by hundreds of women on the journey with you, with additional teachings released each month after the course to keep going deeper on topics like confidence, money mindset, and more. This is a place to tell the truth, ask the hard questions, get advice, give advice, and genuinely make adult friendships with other healthy women doing the work to live well. From the member stories on this page you can hear how much everyone loves this place and these people!
Yes! I’m present regularly in the community, chiming in on conversations, giving advice, and asking questions. Plus we have four Happy Hour bonus calls throughout this experience where you’ll be able to hang out with myself and one another on camera for some hot seats, outfit feedback, new insights as my own education evolves throughout the year, and deeper conversations after you’ve listened to and been working to implement the teaching. You also get my Closet Cam Confessionals which are more personal, chatty, no fancy production to see what my closet and mindset approach are like in everyday life. And if you join The Garden Party it’s also where I’m able to share the most vulnerably as it’s a more intimate, private space. I know who’s listening/watching, and that I too feel safe with y’all.
I so understand a budget! When I was first starting out, I had very little money as an actor. That’s actually why I realized I was so good at styling is because I was shopping at Forever 21 and Target and putting together outfits that people thought were so cute, I knew that I could shop on a budget because I very much was on a budget. (wink)
#1 Look at your real spending overall in the last year/12 months. Not just on clothing, but face products, makeup, dermatology, botox, facials… shoes, purses, accessories, shipping fees/returns… dieting, cleanses, chasing the next tool or trick for weight loss? What would you need to pause, to find that $97/month? That might be the clothes shopping freeze I recommend all students do while in this experience, or the quest to lose 10 pounds, or the emphasis of looking younger this year.
I’m my own proof of this! So far in the 6 months of 2023 I’ve bought a $15 bracelet, one top/tank, and one nice dress. I talked in Ep 164 of the You’re Welcome Podcast about a beauty treatment I put off because the pricetag was so high I wanted to intellectually think more about how much looking younger is really worth to me. I save myself thousands every year because I have this!
Bonus: are there additional costs you’re racking up like taking a cab, paying a late/rush fee, or ordering takeout because you spent your time trying on and taking off 10 options or panicking you didn’t like how you look?
#2 Is there any truth to the idea you might be able to make more from feeling more confident, and/or having more time and energy? There is an external element to our beauty. We do live in a society in which you’re more likely to get a promotion or be hired the better dressed you are. The more you convey experience, maturity and gravitas. So is there any potential that you could be at a place as a creative, business owner, or employee track that you wouldn’t be able to make more than $97 a month by walking in with more confidence and gravitas?
The opposite! I recommend you go on a shopping freeze in this experience. First, you’ll learn about yourself through exploring the closet you currently have. Next, amplify what you already own by seeing it in new ways. Then, identify holes, growth, and shifts so that when you are ready to invest you’re doing so with more intention, wisdom, and peace.
Yes! This teaching intentionally uses the word women in the title because we honor these are gendered stereotypes, stories, and pressures we are unpacking. It’s a box we’ve been put in and we have to acknowledge that to explore our experience because of it. However, we work to dismantle those boxes, and therefore anyone who feels seen in and connected to this work is welcome! Our definition of beautiful is not based on outward appearances or bodily anatomy. Though we celebrate and play with our visual beauty, what matters is how we feel, only you know how you feel, thus whether this work speaks to you. You are welcome here.
I’ve been healing myself in this regard for over ten years, and I have healed the most in the last year. I am thrilled that you are joining us further on the journey. And sister, there is so much farther to go. There is background education than will deepen what you already believe, foundational principles that will amplify what you’re already celebrating, more freedom from watching other women heal along with you, and a deep sense of mission as you watch all the element converge into a vision of what it means to be and model being a woman who is kinder to herself and therefore others.
I am so proud of you! You’ve had the hope you could make your life better. I’m sorry you’ve felt a little disappointed despite your faith and effort. While I don’t know what other teachings you’ve tried, I’m genuinely unaware of another holistic teaching that brings together so many factors and layers, with extensive data and research across so many fields, to truly change our heads and hearts. If I may say so, I’m a pretty smart cookie. My brain can be sort of annoying to be around, because I ask a lot of questions, and don’t settle for answers easily. I wonder why, then why again. The good news is this makes me a fabulous researcher and explorer, turned teacher and life coach. Furthermore, I’ve been asking these questions for over ten years, and spent a year almost full-time creating this brand new curriculum. Read the testimonials on this page from alums of my original course. That was only 30% of what you’re getting in this experience and look at how it transformed them!
PS You also have support in making this a lifestyle change. It takes 21 days to make a new habit, and 90 days to make it a part of your lifestyle so it sticks. We have 365 days inside this experience to 4x our commitment to making this a permanent lifestyle change, and kick it off with my 21 Days of Mindset Integration bonus to get started.
Friend, if you’re ready to feel better, while I can’t make an egg or tell you much about space or a zillion other things, THIS is my magical gifting. I am so honored to share it with you.
that affects everything from our career to our love life to our children, and we spend a sizeable amount of our budget on–that no one taught us how to do.
Feeling peace in our bodies is one of the earliest battles we’re indoctrinated into starting at age 3 according to the research, and it does not matter how ideal your body actually is, because when even those women at the top are being airbrushed and photoshopped none of us feels we are enough. It’s time to get to the root of the issue, and plant new seeds.
Don’t waste your time, money, and energy for another month on a path that has never lead to enough peace and joy, and that culture is going to spend that month convincing you to spend even more, and the data shows it’s going to work.
in your clothes, beauty, and body, when the data shows it’s only going to make us feel worse.
You need this teaching today.
(And since I encourage you to pause shopping while you move through it, swap it in your budget so it’s free and then saves you money!)
Now that you realize there’s a hole in your bucket, don’t pour more into it for a minute longer. This is research-based, science-backed, distilled from so many experts, bringing all of that wisdom into one cohesive complex way forward that collectively is the answer. You’re here in the right place at the right time.
OUR DEFINITION OF BEAUTIFUL IS YOU
We’re becoming women who are so peaceful and comfortable in themselves it’s deeply becoming, so attractive to be around because it invites you to be more at home in yourself as well.
YOU ARE GOING TO
love who you are here.
Please note: Special pricing and bonuses are only available during this limited-time enrollment period.
When you join, you’ll also have the opportunity to become a member of The Garden Party at a special alumni rate of just $15/month!
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